What do you think Ronda Rousey, the $6.5 million per year UFC champion, does before a fight? Crush doors with her bare hands? Maybe punch through some windows?
No, actually. In Rousey’s own words:
“When I’m about to fight, I’m the most emotional. Like my last fight, I like totally cried the day before that.”
Surprised? Don’t be. From President Obama to George Washington and Abraham Lincoln, some of history’s toughest people have openly cried – often in public. And why wouldn’t they? According to psychologists, crying is actually a sign of mental strength.
Let’s take a look at a few reasons, shall we?
HERE ARE SEVEN REASONS WHY IT IS PERFECTLY OKAY TO CRY:
1. TEARS HELP YOU LET GO AND MOVE ON.
There’s a reason you feel better after you cry, says Steinberg. The sympathetic nervous system is activated beforehand, and then once you cry, your heart rate and breathing slow, your digestion resumes, and your body relaxes. If we don’t let our tears out, the feelings that led to them also have a way of getting stuck inside us. Plus, when we don’t feel our feelings, we don’t learn from them and we don’t move on.
2. TEARS HAVE NUMEROUS HEALTH BENEFITS.
Because it releases stress hormones, crying can actually help your immune system, says Steinberg. Tears even contain natural pain relievers, relaxation aids, and bonding hormones that aren’t in the moisture your eyes normally produce.
3. TEARS HELP RELEASE HIGH LEVELS OF STRESS.
In the world of architecture, strength is about much more than hardiness. A good, sturdy structure relieves stress effectively before it becomes destructive. A strong person is no different. For many people, crying relieves built up stress that could easily become damaging if not dealt with properly.
Think of it as a nifty ‘design feature.’
4. TEARS SHOW VULNERABILITY
Many people feel pressure to project a perfect image of themselves, one of someone who can handle every situation and never gets upset. But that’s not actually the kind of person people want to be friends with, date, or work with. People are attracted to people they can relate to, who are humble enough to admit they’re not always picture-perfect.
Vulnerability isn’t just attractive — it’s also adaptive. One possible reason crying evolved is so that people know to help us when we’re in trouble.
5. TEARS HELP SOMEONE WHO IS DEPRESSED FEEL BETTER.
Crying is scientifically proven to make you feel better. It’s rare that crying will make you feel worse than what prompted you to cry in the first place. It is a release of pent-up energy and emotions.
Crying helps to regulate the highs and lows of emotional extremes. Tears are important in helping to get out of moments of intense feeling without injury. Crying, especially when feeling down, shouldn’t embarrass you. Instead, it says you are learning to manage your mental health.
6. TEARS HELP PROCESS GRIEF AND LOSS.
“To weep is to make less the depth of grief.” – William ShakespeareLosing someone or something that is important is tragic. It is a feeling that engulfs you to the point that the only relief happens through tears and a good hug from a close friend.
We often hold back our tears to make it easy for others, but that is not the best approach for us. Don’t pretend to be strong just to make others feel more comfortable.
Instead, focus on what you need to get through that moment. Crying can be comforting, and your tears become your best friend as you work through your loss.
7. TEARS HELP YOU FEEL WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.
Have you ever just cried because you didn’t know what to do or how to feel? Sometimes life gets to be too much. It’s hard to stay composed when the next step isn’t clear, and the thought of figuring it out is a bit overwhelming. A good cry might just be the ticket. It releases stress, makes us feel better and can help foster creative thinking.
After feeling the release crying brings, it’s common to experience more energy and new ideas about how to tackle the challenges we face.
We already mention that tears can make acquaintances feel uncomfortable but by not crying you can suppress your feelings to a point where you might not be able to recognize them in the future.
So go ahead and cry freely and with pride, knowing you are doing what is right and natural to promote your own physical and mental well-being.
Source: bustle.com, http://oddmenot.com
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